Firstly, don't do it via text or even a phone call! Do it face to face (as you woud like it done to you).

Secondly, try to nip it in the bud. Tell her how you're feeling without acusing or blaming her about anything - chances are she might not even be aware of it. Give her a chance to lift her game and then you won't have to dump her after all. Start the conversation off with "How are you feeling about being one of my bidesmaids?" to give her a chance to opt out if she wants. She will probably ask you "Why?", which then leads you on to being able to say "Well, sometimes it feels like you doin't want to be/are not enjoing it/are trying to sabotage me..." (whichever is the most appropriate).

Then after that, if she doesn't lift her game and things still don't work out, at least she had some warning. Tell it to her straight and tell her that you just aren't letting anyone casue you stress in the lead up to and on your big day. Don't text her.

I scoured the internet looking for other advice on how to handle this and have gathered my findings below.

A lot can happen between the time you pick your Bridesmaids and when you finally tie the knot, and although we like to think our gal pals will stick with us through thick and thin, nothing can prepare you for the toll that planning a Wedding can take on the friendship.

If it gets to breaking point and you feel like you need to break-up with your Bridesmaid, you’ve got to tread carefully. She may done something wrong or you may have simply got ‘Bridesmaid happy’ and picked too many, either way you don’t want to completely ruin the friendship.

Here are our seven tips on how to break-up with a Bridesmaid, but still keep a friend.

Here are 7 ways to break up with your bridesmaid that Wedded Wonderland put together.

As brides.com says, it’s your wedding and you make the rules, so here are their tips to firing a bridesmaid if you’ve grown apart.

I guess the best advice I can offer is, don’t pick your bridesmaids too early. Wait until closer to the wedding in case relationships change along the way, especially if you get engaged and are then going to have a long wait until the wedding - you just ever know what may happen between now and then. Life has a way of throwing curve balls at us along the way that we never expected.

As offbeat bride.com says, think about why you asked them to be bridesmaid in the first place. In this article, they suggest to ask them about their feelings first - find out what’s going on for them.

I guess the main piece of advice is to pick wisely to begin with…and not too early.

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